In The Middle Of A Rough Time?
Not long ago I did a video and article, How To Release Negative Experiences. After posting the article/video, I received an email from someone asking what to do when you are in the middle of a negative experience, like right now? How do you get your bearings? How to get through a painful experience? How do you take care of yourself during difficult times?
This is a great question, and something I don’t think anyone can ever avoid. At different times in our lives we will all have to face sufferings from loss, disappointment, uncertainty, heartache, separation, injustice, rejection, cruelty, pain, illness, and death.
So what do you do when you are in the thick of it? When you are in the middle of a terrible experience and you don’t know up from down?
In The Middle Of A Rough Time? Here’s What To Do:
1- Acknowledge and express what you are feeling and going through
The most important thing you can do right now, is acknowledge what you are going through, what it’s doing to you, and how it makes you feel. It’s perfectly ok (and expected) to feel angry, resentful, fearful, upset, sad, miserable, etc. in any trying situation.
What’s important is expressing it outward, not just inward. What that means is speaking what you are feeling and going through, out loud. Don’t just talk to yourself in your head, or play the story over and over again in your mind. It’s important to speak out loud.
Don’t keep things in.
Don’t stuff things down.
Don’t downplay what you are feeling or going through.
You might want to be “strong.” Or, you want to maintain compossure, or feel it’s your responsibility to be the one carrying the burden. But whatever you do, don’t hold yourself back from expressing yourself, how you feel, or what the situation is doing to you.
When you keep things inside, they grow. They can become larger than life, and eat away at you.
The first thing to do is say out loud what you are going through, how it’s affecting you, what you are feeling or thinking right now, and even, what you want.
In the beginning, you may feel more comfortable just acknowledging it to yourself. And that is a step in the right direction. But later on, please reach out and speak to someone too.
2- Talk to someone, anyone.
There’s a reason why talk therapy works, and every year billions of dollars are spent on therapists, coaches and counsellors. Talking allows you not only to express yourself, but to let it out.
When you’re going through a rough time, there’s nothing worse than going through it alone, or not having someone to talk to.
Find a friend or family member to talk to. If there’s no one to talk to, find a counsellor, coach or therapist to talk to. Find someone.
If you have someone to talk to, but you don’t feel like you’re being heard, or that they don’t get it, or they don’t understand what you are going through; find someone who will. Sometimes when you are in a difficult time, your loved ones may be too wrapped up in the situation to console you, to offer you advice, or even an open ear.
You need to talk it out. Everyone needs someone to listen to them, especially at times of hardship. By talking it out, you are no longer carrying the burden on your own. I always find that when I confine in someone, I always get a fresh perspective, whether it’s from their input, or even just hearing myself talk about it out loud, or both.
Never suffer alone. Life is about bonding, friendship, relationships, and community. We weren’t put on this planet to go through life on our own or to shoulder everything by ourselves.
You’ll never burden people, in fact, it’s just the opposite. How many times did someone reach out to you for support, and you felt a strong sense of purpose and honour to be their for your friend or loved at a time of need? Perhaps this is an opportunity to allow your loved ones to be there for you, and support you back?
3- You will turn a corner
Whenever I’ve gone through a difficult time, I always remind myself that eventually I will turn a corner.
You don’t need to know what that corner is. Just knowing that it is there, and it will eventually reveal itself at the right time, can bring a sense of assurance and calm.
Nothing stays the same. Miracles, magic, healing, and change; all happen every single day. Who’s to say it won’t happen to you?
For more on what to do during a rough time, watch today’s video below.
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