How To Release Negative Experiences

How To Release Negative Experiences

I was recently asked how to release negative experiences. We all know how some experiences can take over everything from your thoughts, your emotional health, mental wellbeing, even your physical health. How to let go of bad experiences so they don’t control your life and deplete you?

Two things come to mind when I think about releasing negativity: Balance and Perspective. In fact whenever I’m dealing with a negative experience or situation, just by reminding myself of these two words helps to bring me back to centre and see things for what they are.


We’re always encountering positivity and negativity, and the key is maintaining a balance.

When negativity starts taking over, I see it as a red flag that something is falling off balance. Instead of trying to control the negative, this is the time to re-evaulate the positives in your life. When negativity is overtaking you, I believe it’s because you’ve lost touch with the greatness of your life and you’re unconsciously giving too much power to external situations and negative people.

If negative experiences starts interfering with your daily life, your relationships, your thoughts and decisions, and holds you back from living the life you want to live – this is a big warning sign that something is amiss, something has fallen off balance, and it’s imperative that you get back to yourself, and the value of your life.

The more things you do to boost your confidence and self-esteem, live a life in accordance with your values, cherish and appreciate the beauty and magic of life, and connect yourself with what really matters – this is when you are truly alive, and no negativity can sway, influence, or control you.


Negative experiences live in the past. How I see it, what happened in the past, stays in the past, it’s done and you can’t change it. The only thing you have control over is your present situation and yourself in this moment.

To have perspective is to see the negative experience for what it is, and what it is doing to you. It’s not about trying to change it or fix it, or even trying to understand it; it’s about not letting it rule over you, not letting it continue to disempower you, or adversely affect you. A negative experience is bad enough, but what is even worse is reliving it every day in your thoughts, and giving full control to that experience.

When you live in the present, you take your power back. Whether your conscious of it or not, the moment you are fully interacting in the present moment, you’re automatically freeing yourself from your past, including those past negative experiences. There’s no room for past negativity in the present.

To live in the present moment is all about doing things you love, and immersing yourself in actively living your life. If you feel overwhelmed by a past negative experience, ask yourself how much of yourself is still living out that experience and how much of yourself is fully engaged in the here and now? This will definitely give you perspective!

Action Steps

I’ve given you “Balance & Perspective” as food for thought, but what is most important is living your life to the fullest. Sometimes when we are overcome by negativity we’re thinking too much, and the very thing we need is to be doing is getting out there and doing things!

If you feel overwhelmed by a negative experience, ask yourself:

  • What are you thinking about most of the day? Are you thinking about the bad experience, perhaps re-telling yourself the story of that experience or are you spending most of your days thinking about things you want to do and planning activities you enjoy?
  • How often do you do good things for yourself?
  • What do you do to release stress, and how often?
  • What social activities do you love doing, and how often do you do them?
  • When was the last time you laughed and had a good time?
  • What do you do in your free time?
  • What is it that you always dreamed of doing but haven’t done yet?
  • What does it mean to you to be fully alive?

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